Your Key To Success and Happiness
I just began reading again a book that I purchased last year. It has been so helpful in understanding myself and others that I wanted to share some insights from it with you. Keep in mind that this book was written back in 1956. Funny to consider how little our human nature seems to have changed since then! 
Should also add that this book came off the shelf again just recently when I grabbed it for something to read on a weekend trip with my wife and her mother. Needless to say I wasn’t all that happy on this trip, re-reading this book at that time offered me some powerful insight into my own human nature, which turns out to not be so different from that which we all want.
Let me know with your comments below if these insights are helpful for you too.
So, What is the Key to Success and Happiness?
I’m sure you would agree with the simple statement that we all want
Success and Happiness
Yes?
But we are all unique, so your idea of Success is very likely different than mine.
Yet, there is a common denominator that we all share.
This one common factor to happiness and success for each of us is
OTHER PEOPLE.
Merely getting along isn’t the answer.
So here I was on my weekend “away” with my wife and mother-in-law…
If merely “getting along” isn’t the answer what is I was wondering?
It showed up in two parts with what the book stated next:
“What counts is a way to get along with people, or deal with people, that will bring us
1. Personal Satisfaction
and at the same time
2. Not Trample on the egos of those we deal with.
Human relations is the science of dealing with people in such a way that our egos and their egos remain intact. And this is the only method of getting along with people that ever brings any real success or any real satisfaction.”
So there I was sitting and pondering what I had just read.
It’s not like this was really new information (I’m guessing what the author is suggesting here is nothing new to you either right?)
But as I kept looking at it from the funk I was in at the time I began to see it in a new way, First #1 and then #2.
So simple and yet so important for me to remember.
First I have to tend to my own ego, it’s needs, wants and Satisfaction before I can ever hope to 2. Not Trample on the egos of those I deal with.
If you’re like me it’s so easy to lose site of this order of things.
To be about “for-GETTING” this requirement of our human nature, that we first tend to our own ego, before we can really have any success “getting along with” or “dealing with” other people. (consider that Forgetting is like being about “For-GETTING,” and that its opposite in a dream of duality is to be about “For-GIVING” also more commonly thought of as Forgiving.
So in that moment I began “Re-Member-ing this Awareness,” and it was like waking up from my unsuccessful and unhappy moment.
I immediately began to experience a sensation of wholeness, no longer being separate and alone in what I was feeling at the time. (Should also mention that forgiving myself for being such unpleasant company at the time also occurred).
How can you be “nice” and “good company” to others when you are not tending to your own ego’s want and needs?
This inquiry continues for me.
Has this post offered you any “new awareness,” to…
Your Own Key to Success and Happiness?
I look forward to your shared awareness in comments left below.
To Your Internet Marketing Success,
T. Owen
PS. Here are a few additional insights from the book:
“-It is a proven fact that 66 to 90 percent of failures in the business world are failures in human relations.
-So-called personality problems, such as timidity, shyness, and self-consciousness, are basically problems in dealing with people.
-Learn skills in dealing with people with confidence and you will automatically improve your own success and happiness.
PPS. I just recently met someone who has some keys to being Successful and Happy Online, his name is David Walker. A personal video invitation for you to learn all about how he does it by clicking here:
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Timothy,
Great Post! I never really thought about how much a role relationships play in a businesses success, but it really does make sense. Thanks for giving me something to think about! -Norene
.-= Norene´s last blog ..Beating the Newbie Blues =-.
Thank You Norene!
I almost didn’t bother putting this post up today.
Your comment is a timely reminder to simply trust when we are prompted to Take Action!
Glad to see you doing the same with your blog.
All our love to you and yours from us in Norway!
Hi Tim,
Thank you so much for giving me the opportunity to present my ebook to your blog readers and subscribers!
Blogging can be a superb way to both market yourself and make money online but it has to be done the RIGHT way otherwise you will join the millions of other “hobby” bloggers who never make a dime!
Thank you once again Tim and I am looking forward to collaborating with you again in the near future!
David
.-= David Walker´s last blog ..Using Video to Warm Up Your Subscribers =-.
Very well spoken David,
It’s an honor to have you introducing all that you have to offer readers toward their own Internet Marketing Success.
Thank you for the opportunity to do that!
Hi Tim,
I’m a first time reader on the blog, and let me tell you, this first post really opened up my eyes. Just as you said, it’s not any new information that we’re reading, but it’s a very healthy reminder to keep ourselves in check.
Relationships and interaction with people online is definitely the key to our future success. This is something that many don’t keep their eye on, but to get the ball rolling in any means, you need to harness valuable connections with the community around us.
And we’re lucky to have the Alex Jeffreys community as a starting point!
Great blog, Tim… Keep it up!
Joe Fier
.-= Joe Fier´s last blog ..Thanks to Alex Jeffreys, Money Chases Me Everywhere! =-.
Welcome Joe!
Sure appreciate you leaving your comment and letting me and the readers here know more about you.
Love what I see you up to with your blog:
Would like to speak with you about doing something together to increase value to our followers.
I’ll shoot you an email.
Tim,
First time here. Some great principle you share.
Always have to try my best not to criticize others. Its something that really I keep top of my mind. As everyone wants to feel good about themselves and their place in society.
Thanks for reminding me to be even more sensitive to others.
Take care,
Rob
.-= Rob Canyon´s last blog ..How I Made $3758 In 21 Days Online… With My ‘Double Click Blueprint’ Strategy. =-.
Thanks for the visit Rob and your comments too!
Great to interact with readers of a post.
Yes, sensitive to others is important I agree, but if you’re like me it is so easy to rush on to this 2nd step without having properly tended to the first.
It continues to be my experience that if I take care of the 1st step of tending to my own ego, then when I turn outward to be sensitive to others it magnifies the effect.
Another way to think of it is the biblical idea of “teaching a man to fish as preferred to simply giving him a fish.”
Extending charity to others certainly has a place but if it really never inspires or addresses the importance of each of us experiencing our own wholeness…
from our own ego’s inside to then the outside of us (where our ego does it’s interacting with other egos)…
Simple sensitivity may never activate the profound power of “being given back to ourselves.”
Would love to hear others thoughts and especially personal experience of this.
Here is one more thought along the same lines:
To Have, Give All to All.